Please help settle a debate between me and my significant other. Years ago, in my early 20s, I got the name of a boyfriend tattooed on my arm. It was a dumb decision on a Mexico vacation. We stopped hanging out not long after and even though I see him around still, I wouldn’t even call him a friend. We are polite when we run into each other, and every now and then he’ll jokingly ask about the tattoo and we laugh it off with a fist bump.
This was not my first tattoo and is one of many tattoos I have. My current significant other hates tattoos in general, and I know he’s not a fan of my ink. But he especially hates the name tattoo. The first time we hung out, he zeroed in on it. He had a million questions about my ex. He had a hard time believing I was over him. He said if I really was, I would have gotten the tattoo removed.
Tattoos are expensive to remove, and time-consuming, and frankly it’s never mattered to me enough. To me, this particular tattoo represents youth, my inexperience at the time, and it’s a good reminder of where I’ve been — that’s it. But my boyfriend won’t let it go. I’ve suggested lately we get more serious, maybe move in together, and he seriously keeps coming back around to that tattoo and saying until I “deal with it” he has a hard time taking us seriously