My sister’s monitoring camera invades my privacy when I visit my dying mom

By Abigail Van Buren

Dear Abby: My 95-year-old mother has been healthy until recently. She’s in an independent living facility and is happy there. I’m the primary caretaker for her medical needs as her heart has weakened, and she’s now under palliative care.

My sister “Julie,” who lives out of state, has decided to place a camera in Mom’s home and track and record her day and night. Although Mom doesn’t mind the camera, it makes me uncomfortable to be constantly watched and monitored while visiting and assisting her. Julie gets angry if I cover the camera while I’m there. When I remove the cover, I hear the camera zoom around the room and focus on us. Am I wrong to want privacy during my visits with my mother?

— Camera-Shy in Colorado

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