It bothers me when my friend refuses to wear a bra in public. Should I stop being seen with her?

Abigail Van Buren

DEAR ABBY: I have a longtime friend, “Erin,” who is my age (early 60s). She retired several months ago and has told me a couple of times since then that she has stopped wearing bras.

I thought she meant around the house, but she means ALL the time. Erin is generously endowed and has “headlights.” In warmer weather, she’s less likely to wear a cardigan, so the lack of a bra or anything else to preserve a bit of modesty other than wearing her shirts in a larger size is starting to bother me.

I don’t normally care what other women wear. But I cringe having Erin around my husband and other friends, and I no longer want to go out and about with her.

Am I a prude? If this were something occasional, I would ignore it. But this seems to be forever. If I say something, what should I say? — CAN’T UNSEE THIS IN CALIFORNIA

https://www.oregonlive.com/advice/2025/02/dear-abby-it-bothers-me-when-my-friend-refuses-to-wear-a-bra-in-public-should-i-stop-being-seen-with-her.html