AITA for going mad about my mother in law and her dog?
So, I don’t even know where to start. My mother in law is a single long time divorced lady and her world revolves around her dog. Her old dog died and she was actually a okey person to be around again for a few months but now shes had dog number two for close to a year and I’m going mad.
Whenever she’s there, no matter the occasion, everything has to revolve around her dog. We rented a place and told her dogs are not allowed here, it was hard wooden floors and a expensive place. Cue major drama, because if she couldn’t bring her dog she couldn’t go to her granddaughters birthday. So we said okey, bring it but keep it in the cage. Yeah, that lastet for 5 minutes. Then we had to ruin the mood by reminding her the condition for her bringing the dog. Her response was carrying it around in her arms the entire time, talking shit about the land lord and letting her dog out on the porch. This is just how she operates, normal day to day.
Now come Christmas I fucking lost it. We have a new house now, new furniture. She comes to stay with us, of course we can’t refuse her to bring the dog, then she wouldn’t even show up. So she has been staying with us for close to a week already, dog is everywhere, on the couch, stealing our kids toys “it’s not his fault since the toys are laying around etc”.
And today, when santa arrives she has the dog loose so he runs up to santa (me dressed up), barks, spins around, acts all crazy so my 2 year old – which were supposed to experience santa for the first real time – gets scared and just walks away. She doesn’t even try to remove the dog, no she records it, sends it to her entire family and thinks it’s so funny that her dog loved seeing santa for the first time. So I’m fuming and saying she ruined the moment, and she thinks I’m just an evil dog hating lunatic (I assume, I’m getting the silent treatment).
My wife is unsure what to do, her mother can’t take any feedback. I want to ban her from bringing the dog to any future birthdays, christmas and other important occasion. Maybe allow her to have her dog in a cage in the guest room (only when we have guests etc, not the entire stay), but my wife says she wont come then, or she will and just ignore the rule all together, forcing me to be the mean guy and say it in front of everyone.
Im just tired and genuinely feel like she’s a narcissist. Am I the asshole?
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