I’m furious my daughter blames me for her arrest

Dear Abby:

I have a grown daughter who is most likely an alcoholic. I am not a doctor, so I really don’t know. We live in different cities. A few years ago, she was sitting on the sidewalk outside her apartment dead drunk and holding a lit cigarette. Someone saw her passed out and called the police, who took her to jail. To this day, she accuses me of having called the police. It wasn’t me. I didn’t know what was happening. This makes me furious. I have no reason to lie to her.

The next morning, her boss called me looking for her. We found out later she had been arrested. After talking with her boss, I did phone the police to ask if maybe she was at the station. I live 30 miles away. I’m angry because I’m being falsely accused. I know I need to let this go, but she triggers me every time she brings it up, and it’s been five years! Please help me.

— Drama Mama in Texas