Crude, Rude, and Not Funny: How Do I Make Him Stop?
Dear Community,
I’m hoping for some guidance on a growing issue in my marriage. Since getting married, my husband has started making crude jokes regularly—things like farting at the dinner table, making comments about women’s bodies as we pass them on the street, joking about female masturbation, or referencing our body parts in ways I find really off-putting.
To be clear, he didn’t behave this way when we were dating. This shift started after we got married, and now it happens multiple times a week. I’ve told him directly that this kind of humor makes me uncomfortable and that I find it a complete turn-off. I’ve even suggested he save these jokes for when he’s with his brother or his guy friends, but he keeps doing it.
When I bring it up, he brushes me off—saying he’s “just joking,” that he’d never say these things around other people, or that I’m being too sensitive. I’m feeling unheard and disrespected, and I don’t know how to make him take this seriously. I’m not trying to control his sense of humor, but I do want to feel comfortable and respected in my own home.
How can I get through to him that this really matters to me?
Sincerely,
Not Laughing Anymore
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