Help! My Boyfriend Wets the Bed—and He Doesn’t Know That I Know. What Now?

Dear Prudie,

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and a half now, and I love him dearly. He stays at my house a couple of nights a week, and there have been three separate occasions when he has wet the bed; however, he doesn’t know that I know he wet the bed. I feel bad because I can tell when it happens that he’s terrified and just praying to God that I don’t roll over and realize that the bed is soaked. I just don’t know how to tell him that I know. I don’t want him to ever feel ashamed of it (my brother had this problem when we were growing up), and there is no way I would ever think less of him because of this. How do I broach the subject? I just want him to know it is nothing to be embarrassed about without embarrassing him.

—Sleeping With a Bed-Wetter

https://slate.com/advice/2025/04/boyfriend-adult-bed-wetting-relationship-advice.html