It has been years and my husband’s family still won’t use my real name

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I kept my birth name when I got married 10 years ago. However, my parents insist on calling me “Mrs. Husband’s Last Name.”

They’ve used a variety of excuses — they were being polite to my husband (who, luckily, doesn’t appreciate their gesture), or they were keeping things simple for the mail carrier. They’ve even insisted that I am still “thinking” about changing my name and that they will use this in the interim.