I’m dating my ex, and he won’t tell me where he lives
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DEAR ABBY: I was with my ex-fiance for 13 years. Not long after he broke up with me, I found myself going to meet him at a hotel. We have been seeing each other regularly, once a week at least. We go out and enjoy our time together like we are dating.
The frustrating thing is, he doesn’t want to let me know where he lives. He says it’s a comfort thing for him to have “just his space.” It has been a year and a half since our breakup. Anytime I ask about our situation, he says he doesn’t know what he wants.
All of the things he does for me show he loves and cares about me. It feels like we are in this weird limbo, almost like he’s stringing me along because he doesn’t say if he ever wants to get back together. He says, “Why can’t you just enjoy what we’re doing?” I want more with him and better than we had before.
We were in a bad place before, and I didn’t treat him well. I was going through things and took it out on him. In our time apart, no longer being a couple, I have worked on myself to become a happier and healthier person and have gotten my life in order. I love him very much, and I am hoping for more. Any advice?
— SITUATIONSHIP IN CALIFORNIA
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