My Boyfriend Is Mimicking My Dad in the Weirdest Way. It’s Ruining Our Sex Life.
BY RICH JUZWIAK
My boyfriend and I are both transmasculine and have been together for a few years. He’s much further along in his transition than I am, which is totally fine. He’s been very supportive of me as I’ve explored what gender means to me and which parts of physical transition I want to pursue or not pursue. He’s a great boyfriend in all respects. We share chores easily, we are able to talk things out without really fighting, we have great sex.
The issue I’m having feels so small and petty, but I can’t get away from it in my head. My boyfriend has gotten more interested in developing a personal style lately, which is great. What’s not great is that he has suddenly started dressing a lot like my dad. It’s definitely not intentional as my dad has not met my boyfriend, but I can’t stop thinking about it. Telling my boyfriend seems mortifying and controlling, especially because his confidence has really increased since he started dressing in ways that make him feel attractive. I know my dad’s sense of style is not unique, but there are some shirts my partner bought that are almost identical to ones my dad has (I think they’re likely the same brand), which made me notice that as my partner has gotten a little softer—his body type is also kind of dad-ish. I’ve noticed that I have stopped initiating sex as often. How can I get over this before it further impacts our relationship?
—Daddy Issues
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