Help! I Want to Give My Ex Babies. It’s the Least I Could Do.
Dear Prudence,
Four years ago, I convinced my ex-husband to open up our marriage. My ex only agreed because he loved me. After being miserable during the entire arrangement, we are now officially divorced. Before we started the open marriage, I promised my ex that we could start a family after we gave being open a try. I still want to keep my promise and give him four children. That was the number he wanted. I wanted two, but I’m open to whatever he wants. I’m 34 and I want to do this as soon as possible.
Now that he is single, I know he can find someone else. But I fear it will take him a lot longer to find someone else than just trying with me. He is 38 but struggled to find anyone during our open marriage. I know he will be the best dad in the world and he deserves to have children of his own. I know with some certainty that he still wants to have children with me but he is still deeply hurt by what I dragged him through. I don’t want to come off as if I’m manipulating him again. Or that I’m trying to keep him in my life. I don’t blame him, but I can’t wait for him to come around. I also plan to give up all parental rights to our four children. If my ex wants me to have no part in the children’s lives, I will stay away. If he wants me to pay child support, I’ll gladly do it. I need help to convince him to put up with me for another four years. The tricky part is that I’m still in the polyamory lifestyle. I want to make amends for being a terrible wife by giving him the only thing I can and the only thing he may still want from me. Failure to do this will leave a rot in my soul.
—Baby Mama for My Ex
https://slate.com/human-interest/2024/01/ex-babies-open-marriage-dear-prudence-advice.html
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