AITA for not wanting to change my hair unless I was paid to?
I have thick, curly hair. Between 3A-3B if you’re familiar with that scale. I’m sure people with similar hair textures are used to the “you’d look so pretty with straight hair! Why don’t you straighten your hair?!” One, I don’t like straight hair on me. Two, it takes forever. Like 2 hours minimum for me, not just due to the thickness but I have long hair. I love my curls and am proud of them. I usually only get it blown out when I get a hair cut (rare) or if I go to a special occasion.
One of my friends, Elizabeth, has wanted me to straighten my hair for years. She’s always offered to do it and I turn her down. She’s never actually seen me with straight hair until this incident because I haven’t cut my hair in the time I met her and I haven’t had a fancy occasion to go to in that time.
Well, last weekend Elizabeth got married and I was a bridesmaid. She told us we could do our hair and makeup however. I offered to get my hair blown out for the occasion as I knew that was the look she wanted for me. She was so excited. We were paying for our own hair and makeup, so I got mine done at a salon a couple of hours before we were due to meet up to get ready. It cost quite a bit. I didn’t totally love it, but told myself I was doing it for my friend.
I arrive at the venue and Elizabeth immediately gets a weird look on her face. She said she didn’t like how it looked at all. I pointed out this is what she had wanted. I had shown her pictures of me with at straight hair in the past. She said it looked different this time. Keep in mind, Elizabeth’s hair and makeup team said it would’ve looked the same if they had done it, so it’s not like the salon I went to messed it up or anything.
Elizabeth then said I needed to fix it. She wanted one of the other bridesmaids who was doing her own hair to curl it. I asked if she was going to pay for me getting it blown out. She said no. I said I wasn’t about to be out the money I paid to get my hair done, especially as I already paid for the dress, my makeup and other various expenses. She told me I was being ridiculous. I had paid $150 for my hair and combined with everything else, it just adds up.
Eventually, her mom got involved, gave me the $150 and the other bridesmaid curled my hair. Elizabeth’s mom told me I was being difficult and I shouldn’t have argued with her daughter. She really laid into me, to the point where I was near tears.
The rest of the wedding went on fine. I was willing to let it go, especially as Elizabeth seemed to. However, I later heard from some of the bridesmaids that they felt I was being difficult. When I said I felt that Elizabeth’s mom went too hard on me, they said I was being a brat and she was just trying to preserve her daughter’s day.
AITA?
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