My Boyfriend Just Said My Family’s Favorite Wedding Ritual Makes Him “Want to Vomit”
While it could be viewed as an antiquated tradition, all of my brothers-in-law took my parents out to a nice dinner to ask for their “blessing” to ask for my sisters’ hand in marriage. It is just a nice family tradition. No one really asked for permission and my sisters had all planned their engagements ahead of time. My parents welcomed my boyfriend with open arms, and we are planning to get married. He is trans and comes from a very disturbing fundamentalist background. He says the thought of asking my parents for their blessing makes him want to vomit. I have tried to be understanding. I don’t ask him to come to church when we visit my family, even though it is a family tradition and our pastor is a woman. Am I awful for pressing on this? It will really hurt my parents if doesn’t happen. I have suggested I go with dinner with them and he pops the question while I am in the bathroom. Mom will get teary and Dad will want to hug. My boyfriend is digging in his heels; should I be digging in mine?
—Blessing
https://slate.com/human-interest/2023/09/wedding-ritual-vomit-care-and-feeding.html
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