I’m Seriously Regretting the Deathbed Promise I Made to My Mother-in-Law.

Well, the boys’ mom passed away in 2020 and I reassured her, on her deathbed, that she didn’t have to worry about Bob and that I would keep an eye on him (he’s unmarried, and there’s not much of their family still around). She used to talk to him once a week, so I started calling him once a week to check in. Bob seems to enjoy these calls, as indicated by me always being the one to have to end them. I’m not surprised he finds them enjoyable; he spends the entire time talking about himself. He never asks about my kids or my work or his brother, he simply goes on and on about his job. I am a good listener, I ask questions, and really try to enjoy these talks, but I am getting very frustrated. I have asked him to ask me questions while on these calls. He just says, “So…what’s new with you?” without any follow-up. I told him to call me when he feels like it. He will never call. We have tried to get him to come visit (pre-pandemic). He would not visit, despite having time off and finances to do so.