A Loving Marriage and a Closet Mystery
Dear Abby,
My husband and I have been happily married for nearly 30 years. He has always been a kind, steady man, the type who still brings me coffee in the morning and remembers little anniversaries that even I sometimes forget. We raised three wonderful children together, and now that they are grown and living in their own homes, our house has become very quiet. In many ways it has been a sweet new chapter for us. We spend evenings cooking together, watching old movies, and enjoying the slower pace that comes with an empty nest.
Lately, however, something has been puzzling me.
Over the past few months, I’ve noticed that a few of my dresses and undergarments don’t seem quite the way I left them. A blouse I rarely wear was hanging differently in the closet. One of my slips looked stretched, and a dress that had been freshly folded appeared as though someone had tried it on and put it back. At first I assumed I had simply forgotten moving things around while doing laundry.
But the little signs have continued. Shoes shifted slightly on the rack, a hanger turned the wrong direction, and once I found a bit of makeup smudged inside the collar of a dress I hadn’t worn in years.
Abby, the only other person living in the house is my husband.
He has never said anything to me about this, and in every other way he is the same loving man he has always been. I have begun to wonder if he may be trying on my clothes when I’m not home. I don’t feel angry or betrayed so much as confused and unsure how to approach the subject. Part of me thinks I should simply let it be, but another part of me feels that after three decades of marriage we should be able to talk about anything.
How does a wife gently ask a question like this without causing embarrassment or making her husband feel ashamed?
Sincerely,
Wondering What’s in My Closet
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