Dear old friend won’t let go of grudge
Dear Abby:
When I recently moved to Ohio, I left behind a group of dear friends. One of them, “Cheryl,” and I talk on the phone almost every night.
Everyone in this group got along beautifully. We had great times and have fabulous memories of growing up together. Ten years ago, while I was away at college, the group had a falling-out involving Cheryl. It was silly and childish — it was over a “boy.” It was soon forgotten and apologies were offered. But Cheryl held a grudge and refused to speak to any of the others.
Abby, more than a decade has passed. We’re all married now with kids and jobs. I love Cheryl dearly, but she refuses to reconcile. She’s extremely sensitive, and the mere mention of the subject starts her whining about the “mistreatment” she endured.
Even though I’m far away, once again, I must listen to her constant complaint that she has no friends except me. She’s upset that I moved away. I’m tired of splitting my time between her and the rest of my friends when I return for a visit.
How can I convince Cheryl that there is a group of girls who miss her terribly and just need her to grow up enough to forgive and forget?
TORNin Dayton, Ohio
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