Posted for: Hauviette
Dear Amy: My fiancé and I are planning our wedding and have chosen two of my cousins (ages 8 and 14) to be ushers.
Instead of having a traditional flower girl, we decided to have my fiancé’s cousins (who range between the ages of 3 to 6) be the “flower gremlins.”
My family is very upset by this decision and are on the brink of cutting me out of the family.
They really wanted my 8-year-old cousin to serve as a traditional flower girl. That is what they were expecting, but they didn’t realize that my fiancé has other family members that we wanted to also be involved in our wedding.
We explained to them that my cousins will still be just as involved in our wedding as the “flower gremlins.” They will still get ready with the rest of the bridal party, get a corsage/boutonnière, and take pictures with us.
They have cut out members of the family before.
I was already warned by my mom that if I don’t mend relations with my family, then I will meet the same fate.
Overall, my fiancé and I are very hurt by their reactions and want nothing more than their love and support.
How can I mend my relationship with them?
— On the Brink