Me and my husband have a constant issue with him going to bed without having a shower. I’ve spoken to him many times and stated that I don’t want him to get into our bed without showering. Reason why is that first hygiene, second, he’s a heavy diesel mechanic who comes home caked in diesel fuel. He washes as much as he can off at work but comes home and I can still see it visibly on his skin. He always makes the excuse that he’s too tired and cannot fall asleep straight away after his shower. he most definitely does fall asleep straight after his shower! We constantly argue about it because I’m so sick of washing the sheets every second day because of the stains and smell on them. He makes me feel as if I’m asking too much and that I’m such a cow for not letting him get enough sleep.
(We have 2 kids, 1 year old and a 2 month old, I understand he’s tired from work and then helping me where he can with the kids but it’s just basic hygiene. I’m also a clean freak and I personally shower 2 times a day because I hate feeling sticky after running around with my daughter).
Am I being an a-hole for demanding he shower before getting to bed??