I (f35) have been dating Tom (37) for almost 2 years now. Tom has a daughter Aspen (13), Tom has always babied Aspen which is fine.
Recently Aspen has been sick and Tom has really stepped up the babying. I think it’s fine to baby your kid(s) but Aspen is a teenager and doesn’t need to be babied anymore. I expressed this to Tom but he says Aspen is still young and needs to be taken care of.
Last night I was going over to Tom’s he told me the front door is unlocked so just walk in. Well, I walked in to find Aspen laying on Tom’s lap asleep. I asked Tom if he thinks Aspen is a little too old to be doing this. He said no especially considering she’s sick. I said I think she is too old and it needs to stop. He told me I’m being an AH and I need to stop being weird about something completely normal. I told friends and they also think I’m the AH… am I?