My sister is suffering from crippling anxiety and depression. The problem is that she’s been calling me a lot lately expressing she’s having a panic attack or not feeling well.
I tried to get her the medical attention she needed but these appointments wouldn’t happen until a few days later or a week later. When she calls, she needs help in that moment. I tried to give her some hotline numbers she could call but she says they don’t answer or don’t help much.
I’m struggling to make ends meet right now and really can’t afford to support her and I’ve been repeatedly telling her as much but she never listened. So I told her the next time she feels a panic attack coming or like she’s not feeling well to call 911 instead of me because I can’t help and that’s what I’ll be doing if she calls me again, to call the police.
She was very upset and questioned whether I didn’t care what would happen to her custody case if it got to court that she’s having mental health struggles. Her husband she’s currently divorcing is emotionally abusive so she doesn’t feel at ease leaving her children with him.
I told her I did care but literally unable to help her and if I could, I would. I told her again to stop calling during emegencies because I can’t do anything. She said she didn’t need me to do anything in particular and just be there but I told her I can’t be there for her in any way, not even just listening.
She said she should just stay with her husband since everybody is treating her like a burden (referring to my other sister refusing to let her live with her after the divorce). I told her that’s not what I meant (being a burden) and she got even more upset and accused me of using her and hung up.
Now I feel like a big asshole but for real, I can barely make ends meet and severely depressed myself and in therapy for it. So AITA for telling her not to call me during emergencies anymore?