DEAR ABBY: My best friend of more than 10 years, “Ian,” completely ghosted me.
We used to talk about everything — our marriages, kids, work. We spent hours together and helped each other through tough times. Honestly, he knew more about me than my own wife did.
Then, without warning, he cut me off. No replies to texts, no returned calls — nothing. I eventually accepted it and removed him from my social media and my life. It has now been two years.
The issue is my wife. Everyone else in my family has stopped associating with Ian, but she has continued to stay in contact. I always thought they were just casual acquaintances who occasionally commented on each other’s posts and played online games. When he ghosted me, she asked if she should stop gaming with him. I told her, “You’re an adult. I can’t decide for you, but I hope you’ll make the right choice.”
She didn’t. I recently discovered they’ve continued chatting online beyond the gaming. When I asked her why she was still in touch with him, she had no answer.
I don’t know what to do now. It feels like a betrayal that my partner would maintain a relationship with someone who hurt me so deeply. I’m also worried about what Ian may be telling her — we had very candid conversations about our marriages. Please help.
— UNEASY IN CANADA