Dear Annie: I’ve been dating “Brian” for almost a year, and things have been good overall. He’s perfect in almost every way; the issue is with his dog. Brian has a large, energetic Labrador who he has really not bothered to train at all. He jumps on people, steals food off counters and barks constantly when we’re trying to relax. Brian thinks it’s funny and says, “That’s just how he is.”
When I bring it up, Brian gets defensive. He says I don’t understand because I’ve never had a dog. But I like dogs; I just think they need to be trained. I find myself not wanting to go over to his place anymore, which makes spending time together harder. It sounds like a small thing, but it’s really been wearing on me, and it makes me question what he will be like as a father if he can’t discipline his dog.
How do I talk to Brian without sounding like I’m a dog hater? I don’t want to be the bad guy, but this has become a real source of stress for me.
— Still Love Dogs