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DEAR ABBY: I’ve been married to my husband for 30 years. For the past five years, I’ve noticed that he is acting a little different. He’s lost a lot of weight. I found out he’s been smoking drugs. He had this problem years ago, and I thought we had it beat. But now I’m getting the impression that maybe you can’t ever beat it.
My daughter gave me a tracker for my birthday. I put it in his car to see where he went, and it showed that he went to an apartment building and was there for almost an hour. I don’t know who lives in that building, and I have never been there. I suspect that he’s cheating on me. I can’t think of another reason he would be in an apartment building in a really bad area if there wasn’t something keeping him there. When I asked him where he was, he said, “Why are you asking me so many questions?”
I know my husband lies to me. I’m at my wits’ end and don’t know what to do. I know it will be really hard to leave if that’s what I choose to do, but I guess I have no other choice. When I suggested marriage counseling, he refused. I told him he needed to do drug counseling. He said he doesn’t have a problem. Clearly, he does have a problem. I told him he’s too old for this. What do you think I should do?
— SUSPICIOUS IN MICHIGAN