Judith Martin,
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am a lifelong nonsmoker and naturally do not permit anyone to light up in my home or in my car. No exceptions. But when I’m a passenger in a vehicle driven by a friend who smokes, they will inevitably light up without asking if it’s OK.
They’ll crack their window and blow the smoke out through the crack. Even so, the wisp of smoke from the still-burning cigarette quickly begins to fill the entire vehicle. It causes me to cough and rub my burning eyes. The friend will usually notice, sometimes offering a “sorry” and will perhaps extinguish their cigarette a minute sooner.
What is my best option, other than not getting in the car at all with a driver who smokes? Would it be rude for me to politely ask them to refrain from smoking until we reach our destination?
Yes, it’s their vehicle, their rules. But the health of my lungs should also matter.
https://www.arcamax.com/healthandspirit/lifeadvice/missmanners/s-3552021