Help! My Husband Is Completely Delusional About His Talents.

Help! My Husband Is Completely Delusional About His Talents.


Dear Prudence,

I’ve been my family’s breadwinner while my husband got through his degree. My husband is currently job hunting and it’s going very slowly. He just finished a contract for a job that was not what he went to school for but he was actually quite good at. Now, he wants a job in the field he went to school for. The problem is that he’s just not very good at it. It’s why he didn’t get an internship while he was in college—he was turned down every time he submitted work samples (think something akin to technical writing). But he didn’t make the connection; he just thinks he was unlucky and needs to find the “right fit.”

I’m not being overly critical—his degree is in my field, and I have had to correct his work many times. I want him to stop applying in that field and start focusing elsewhere, especially since he does have some very desirable skills! I also am starting to resent the time he’s putting into applying for jobs he can’t really do while I work two jobs. But I just don’t feel it’s my place to say, “Honey, I know you got a degree in X, but it’s really not your forte.” That seems so unsupportive. What do I do?

— Don’t Want to Help Chase a Pipe Dream

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