My wife and I (both female) have been together for 25 years—married for 6. Initially, she handled all of our finances and put us deeply in debt. I took over and spent the last few years getting us into a good financial state. My wife is retired while I am still working. We are comfortable, but not rich. The problem is I recently found out she has a checking account I knew nothing about and receives a significant amount of money monthly. I don’t care that she has money, but I think back to all the times I had to borrow from my retirement or take out a loan to pay bills or get some needed medical equipment. I am so angry, but she sees no problem with it. She says she wants to have money to be able to buy me things. That’s great, but I haven’t been receiving any gifts that I don’t buy myself. Am I wrong to be resentful?