A black woman who can’t connect with her white boyfriend on matters of race.

A black woman who can’t connect with her white boyfriend on matters of race.

BY EMILY YOFFE

Dear Prudence,

I am a black woman for whom culture, race, and politics are very important and sometimes painful subjects. I love my partner of two years very much. He is a white man in his late 30s who has very little experience with these matters, and our differing views have caused many arguments. Now we avoid the subject of my culture completely, and it is killing me that he does not understand this important part of who I am. Occasionally he will make generalizations and comments that I find worrying or insulting. He is not a racist, merely ignorant—he thinks we are all one as humans and should not pay attention to differences. If the playing field were equal between all people, I would agree with him, but it is not. Except for this, he is a sweet and gentle man—intelligent, trustworthy, and a blessing in my life. I love him, but I feel I am betraying my politics and community. Mostly, I just want to talk—but I can see why he avoids it, with all the shouting that’s happened. Help.

-Mixed-Race Relationship

https://slate.com/human-interest/2015/03/dear-prudence-im-a-black-woman-with-a-white-boyfriend-who-doesnt-understand-race.html

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