I caught my 17-year-old son having sex in his room with his 17-year-old girlfriend with the door cracked open and music loud. His younger sister (11) and brother (13) were just down the hall and could have walked in on them. But the situation really deteriorated from there.
I told my son he cannot have sex in my house and we attempted to discuss protection (which he was using), STDs, pregnancy, and abortion but he was so upset at having to discuss it with me that he walked off. I didn’t have a chance to let him and his girlfriend know I would be talking to her parents about the incident. I texted my son after I spoke to the girl’s parents.
My son went ballistic that I told his girlfriend’s parents what happened. My son said it’s none of their business and that everyone is having sex. I have two questions: 1) Should I have told her parents? If she were my daughter or son, I would want to know if my children were having sex so I could have additional conversations with them. 2) My son asked if he can’t have sex at the house and doesn’t have a driver’s license, where should he have sex and I didn’t know how to answer.