DEAR ABBY: I have a huge crush on my husband’s friend, “Shane.” I think about him daily and fantasize about him every night. He used to come into the place where I work once a month. I wanted to tell him back then how I felt, but I chickened out.
I recently changed jobs, and he came into where I work now. I made a point of talking to him but said nothing about how I feel. I’m sure he could tell by the way I was smiling. I went to the races when Shane was racing and wanted to tell him then. My husband was there and went over to talk to him, so I stayed sitting on the bleachers. When my husband returned, he said Shane asked him where I was.
Abby, I have felt this way for two years. My husband and I have been married for seven. When I’m driving home from work, I fantasize about Shane riding in the car with me. I hurry to get to town hoping I’ll see him at the gas station or passing by. I’m considering contacting him on Messenger. I have never thought about my husband this way. Please give me some advice on what to do. — OVER THE MOON IN MISSOURI