I’ve been stalking him and his wife on social media

I’ve been stalking him and his wife on social media

Dear Amy: I was involved in an extramarital affair for 15 years.

It was a beautiful and loving relationship. We shared nightly phone calls, managed to take vacations together, and saw one another on weekends.

Then COVID happened.

I moved away because of the pandemic, but we still spoke every night.

I was not happy. I couldn’t adjust, and I missed him terribly.

Our conversations were not as interesting. I blame it on myself. He was working from home and not struggling as much with his relationship with his spouse.

I told no one about the affair. I saw a therapist, but it did not help. My life was a total lie.

My affair-partner and I have not spoken in five months.

I want to call him every day.

This feels worse than a divorce. I am jealous. His life went on, while I am miserable.

Sometimes, I will write an email to his wife, letting her know about our affair, but I don’t send it.

I check on him (and her, and their family) all day on social media.

Are there resources to help me with my obsession?

I am really not in good shape.

Devastated

Ask Amy: I’ve been stalking him and his wife on social media

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