Dear Amy: I was involved in an extramarital affair for 15 years.
It was a beautiful and loving relationship. We shared nightly phone calls, managed to take vacations together, and saw one another on weekends.
Then COVID happened.
I moved away because of the pandemic, but we still spoke every night.
I was not happy. I couldn’t adjust, and I missed him terribly.
Our conversations were not as interesting. I blame it on myself. He was working from home and not struggling as much with his relationship with his spouse.
I told no one about the affair. I saw a therapist, but it did not help. My life was a total lie.
My affair-partner and I have not spoken in five months.
I want to call him every day.
This feels worse than a divorce. I am jealous. His life went on, while I am miserable.
Sometimes, I will write an email to his wife, letting her know about our affair, but I don’t send it.
I check on him (and her, and their family) all day on social media.
Are there resources to help me with my obsession?
I am really not in good shape.