A California mother recently shared in gritty detail the excruciating experience she went through as she stood firmly but lovingly against the transgender lifestyle that had come to grip her preteen daughter — until she prevailed.
“This isn’t a cautionary tale. It’s a warning,” the mother wrote under pen name Charlie Jacobs in an eye-opening column published by the Daily Signal on Monday. “After a year and half of utter hell, my daughter is finally returning to her authentic self — a beautiful, artsy, kind, and loving daughter.”
What’s the background?
In the piece, Jacobs explained that her daughter’s drift into a transgender lifestyle happened slowly at first, then all at once.
She grew up “ultrafeminine” as many girls do — fascinated with shiny heels and sparkly dresses and interested in “art and sewing” more than sports, Jacobs wrote. But when she was 12, everything began to change.
Jacobs said her daughter “immersed herself into anime art and cosplaying” while, as a mother, she unwittingly supported her creative endeavor, never thinking that the new interest would become a gateway to gender-bending and eroticism.
Around the same time, Jacobs explained, her daughter went through a progressive program at her public school, called Teen Talk, which seeks to provide “youth with accurate, non-judgmental information” on “sexuality, reproductive health, body image, substance use awareness, mental health, issues of diversity, and anti-violence issues.”
Before too long, her preteen daughter had abandoned her identity as a straight girl and announced that she was transgender.
“She started making gross TikTok videos, her language became vulgar, and she redecorated her room to look like a cave,” Jacobs said. “She self-pierced her nose with one of those bull rings. She broke every family rule. She was morphing into an emo-Goth-vampirelike creature. She was unrecognizable. Her personality descended into anger and rudeness.”
Infatuated with her older “transitioned” peers, her daughter joined messaging groups where so-called friends discussed erotica, incest, and pedophilia. She even befriended an older girl whom she met at an anime convention, who would later molest her.
How did Jacobs respond?
But instead of bending to societal pressure and learning to accept her daughter’s newfound identity, Jacobs jumped into action. She refused to allow her daughter to fall prey to the transgender cult’s distorted “solution” to the clinical disorder known as gender dysphoria.
Gender dysphoria is described by the American Psychological Association as the feeling of “psychological distress that results from an incongruence between one’s sex assigned at birth and one’s gender identity.” Proponents of transgenderism argue the answer to gender dysphoria is always to embrace one’s feelings about their gender over science.
“I went nuclear,” she wrote. “I took the phone and stripped it of all social media — YouTube, Instagram, Discord, Reddit, Pinterest, Twitter. I even blocked her ability to get to the internet. I deleted all of her contacts and changed her phone number.”
“I sat next to her while she ‘attended’ school online via Zoom. I deleted YouTube from the smart TVs and locked up the remotes. I took every anime book from her room. I threw away all of her costumes. I banned any friend who was even the slightest bit unsavory,” Jacobs continued.
The defiant mother even involved the police, threatening to prosecute anyone who sent her daughter porn.
In response, as one might expect, her daughter hated her for it “like an addict hates the person preventing her drug fix.” Nevertheless, Jacobs held her ground and made sure her daughter knew that she was doing everything out of a bold, unfading love that only a mother can exude.
And eventually, it worked.
Jacobs admitted she wasn’t entirely sure what constituted the “magic potion” for alleviating her daughter’s gender dysphoria. But she touted her family’s all-hands-on-deck approach and unrelenting opposition to transgender transition.
Jacobs also credited helpful resources for aiding her in her fight, such as Abigail Shrier’s book, “Irreversible Damage: The Transgender Craze Seducing Our Daughters,” and Susan Evans’ book, “Gender Dysphoria: A Therapeutic Model for Working With Children, Adolescents, and Young Adults.”
In addition, she allegedly followed the advice of Parents for Ethical Care’s podcasts and the book “Desist, Detrans & Detox: Getting Your Child Out of the Gender Cult” by Maria Keffler.
In the column, Jacobs, who is now “dedicated to educating other parents about how gender ideology can overtake a child,” exhorted other parents to similarly arm themselves against the dangerous ideology before it’s too late.
She shared more about her fight in an extended interview with WLRN, shared below: