By Ashley Cobb
My husband and I have been married for a few years. We were both virgins when we got married. So we are each other’s first everything. My husband loves anal sex. I hate it. We’ve only done it a handful of times and after each time I felt sick afterward. He’s always asking for it; however, he recently agreed we didn’t have to do it anymore once I explained how it makes me feel. But after a few weeks, he was back to begging for it again. He says he can’t stop thinking about it and he said that he wants anal sex to protect our marriage, so he won’t start fantasizing about it and be put in a tempting situation.
I can’t stand anal, but because he said that I feel like maybe I will be putting him in a tempting situation by turning him down. I’m not really convinced anal is part of God’s design for sex. But I want to respect my husband’s wishes and I guess since I have no real reason to think it’s forbidden, I should let him decide if we should treat it as forbidden or not. Even though the marriage bed is undefiled I don’t think I’m obligated to have any and every kind of sex he wants if I’m not okay with it. What should I do?
Ms. Christian Wife