A mother named Cayce LaCorte has gone viral for professing that she has taught her daughters that virginity doesn’t exist and that purity culture is “toxic.”
According to a Wednesday BuzzFeed report, LaCorte recently explained why the concept of virginity is nothing more than a social construct that ought to be ignored.
BuzzFeed noted at the time of its reporting that LaCorte’s video went viral with more than 2 million views.
In the video, LaCorte says, “[Virginity] is a patriarchal concept used to control women and serves no purpose other than making women feel bad about ourselves. Just because some guy randomly sticks his penis in you at some point in your life does not change your worth, it does not change who you are, it doesn’t do anything other than it happened.”
“Sex is important,” she adds. “It’s a big deal. It should always be a big deal. It has nothing to do with your first time. … It’s just ridiculous. The whole concept is ridiculous.”
In the video, LaCorte explains that she gets a lot of flak from other parents who worry that she is encouraging her daughters to be promiscuous.
“I am like, ‘No, I am raising them to be good people that have solid foundations and make their own choices and make smart, intelligent choices,'” she adds.
‘Makes me want to smash things’
BuzzFeed spoke to LaCorte, who said that many social media users who spoke out in support of the video were sexual assault survivors.
“We all have our own rape/assault/pressured into doing something I didn’t want story,” she told the outlet. “We can all empathize. For an entire society to tell you that your worth is tied to your virginity or your purity, then have someone take that from you? It’s heartbreaking and infuriating and makes me want to smash things. We are so f***ing angry about all of this, and if I can make a single survivor feel better about themselves, then I’ve already succeeded.”
LaCorte also insisted that parents should, instead, focus on teaching their kids about the stigma of unintended pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases.
“It’s about the way we force arbitrary rules on ourselves and our kids and miss the big picture,” she complained. “Instead, we could focus on education about pregnancy, STDs, self-worth. How about, instead of making the first time special, make sure it’s always special because that’s the bare minimum you deserve.”
‘Purity culture is toxic at its core’
She also told the outlet that if she were raising sons instead of daughters, she wouldn’t approach the topic any differently.
“You have to battle against toxic masculinity, which is like rolling a boulder up a hill, but it can be done. I’d give the same talks about consent, diversity, love, boundaries, permission, and openness.”
LaCorte also doubled down on her remarks from the original video.
“Purity culture is toxic at its core,” she insisted. “Women are treated vastly different than men because its roots are steeped in a history of women being property. Can you imagine what the world would look like if society put half as much effort into making the world a safer place for women instead of worrying that she’s not a virgin for her husband?”
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