by Abigail Van Buren
DEAR ABBY: My sisters and I just realized after comparing notes that our grandfather, who has been giving us an allowance for many years, gives each of us a different amount. We don’t understand why he would do that unless he is playing favorites. Mom says it’s because he’s allowed to give each of us a certain amount per year for tax purposes, but it still doesn’t explain why the amounts are all different.
We are a year apart in age, and the differences are substantial. Mom said Grandpa does this with her brothers and sisters, too.
Why wouldn’t he give each of us the same amount so that it doesn’t cause hard feelings? I know it’s his money to do with as he pleases and we’re lucky to get any at all, but knowing this has caused hurt feelings. We don’t feel comfortable asking him, but we’d like to understand. What can we do? — LACKING “WHY”