No, it’s not super common (phew), but it does happen more often than you might think.
Fortunately, there are things you can do to both minimize your risk of it happening again and to get you through it if it does.
They also had more trouble with vaginal lubrication and achieving orgasm — all things that get in the way of a healthy sex life.
That’s why we’re here to help. Here’s what you need to know.
What exactly causes it?
There are a few different reasons why it could happen.
Your positioning during sex can put pressure on your abdomen, which in turn might put pressure on your bowels.
Of course, pressure on your bowels — particularly your lower intestines or rectum — doesn’t mean you’re necessarily going to poop.
But it can make you feel like you will.
And if you didn’t have a chance to go to the bathroom before you began, it can accidentally make you poop — especially if you’re relaxed or really in the moment.
You might have heard that some people poop during childbirth.
Well, the same thing can happen with an intense orgasm during vaginal sex.
That’s because orgasms cause uterine contractions, which, like during labor, can cause poop to slip out.
When you orgasm, hormone compounds called prostaglandins are released. These cause your uterus to contract, as well as increase blood flow to your lower pelvis to help with lubrication.
This extra lubrication can sometimes make it more difficult to hold in your poop (or pee, for that matter).
Nerve damage or injury to your anal sphincter can increase your chances of pooping during sex.
These kinds of injuries can happen from constant straining with constipation, during childbirth, or with sexual assault.
Hemorrhoids or rectal protrusions can also cause anal leakage.
The best thing you can do is go to the bathroom and empty your bowels before you get busy.
The less waste in your colon, the less likely it is to come out during sex.
If you’re worried about pooping during anal play, you can always give yourself an enema. Kits are usually available at your local drugstore.
First, try to stay calm. Yes, you may feel embarrassed, but if you panic or react impulsively, it might make you say or do something you regret later on.
Next, if you feel comfortable doing so, consider telling your partner what just happened.
That way, they’ll know why you need to stop and clean up, and won’t think that you’re pulling away from them or kicking them out because of something they did.
Sex can be messy. And in some cases, that means an unexpected poo.
If it does happen, consider talking about it with your partner or your doctor to help ease any anxiety or other unwanted feelings.
This can help you better prepare for your next sexual encounter and maximize the chance that it’ll go according to plan.